“Love is very deep, but sex only has to go a few inches.”
-Stacy Nelkin
Does size really matter?
I’ve heard many arguments on the topic of penis size and its importance. Some of the arguments include “my best lover had a big penis” stories. Others include catchy clichés—”it’s not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician.” The debate over the importance of penis size has led me to one conclusion: for some people, penis size is completely irrelevant. For others, penis size is considerably important.
Without a doubt, size matters to men. We men, by nature, love to compare and compete. We want to be the fastest, the fittest, the tallest, and the greatest. Naturally, this innate competitiveness branches off to penis size. We want to be the biggest too. A penis exerciser I interviewed said it best, “I think most men wish they were bigger. Take me, for instance: I have an average size penis, but average just isn’t good enough—especially
for the organ that equates to manhood, virility, and life.”
Another penis exerciser who uses the online alias Dino9x7 (the 9x7 stands for his goal size) said, “Size matters to me, mostly because I know I can change it. If I couldn’t, I would have just went on my happy way and never really thought about it.” Like several other men, Dino9x7 exercises his penis for the best reason: himself.
Although penis size matters to most men, it generally matters much less to women. Sure, many women love the way a bigger penis looks and feels (just the way many men love the way big breasts or a big butt looks and feels). But some men largely misunderstand penis size; they believe a big penis is essential to satisfying women.
According to editor-in-chief of Men’s Health, David Zinczenko, three-quarters of women say they are satisfied with their partner’s penis size.1 “The vast majority of women don’t care about penis size,” says Michael Castleman, sex educator and author of Great Sex. “Many surveys have asked women what they look for in a man. It’s quite a list: kindness, caring, warmth, tenderness, attentiveness, commitment, shared values, a good listener, a sense of humor, someone who makes a decent living and has no serious vices. A huge penis? Doesn’t make the list.” That’s because most women do not need a big penis to be pleased, teased, and sexually satisfied. As one woman I interviewed told me, “A skillful hand and tongue goes a really long way in the bedroom.”
What’s more, the majority of vaginal nerve endings are within the first two inches of the vagina entrance. That’s why many women say size doesn’t matter. Nearly any penis, regardless if it’s big or small, is able to bring a woman to orgasm—as long as there is enough foreplay, clitoris stimulation, and vaginal penetration. Still not convinced? Keep in mind what Charles Runels, M.D., said in Anytime . . . For as Long as You Want, “Next time you’re worried about the size of your penis, remember that some women actually prefer no penis at all.”
But, is Bigger Better?
My own story that led to this book started with a woman who was obsessed with penis size and, more importantly, my lack of it. But she was outside of the norm. Penis size isn’t a major concern for many women. Yet this still doesn’t answer the “other” question: is bigger better? Most women will admit that a man who is caring, loving, and attentive is a much better lover than a pig-headed man with a big penis. But this doesn’t necessarily answer the fundamental question: what if a man who was caring, loving, and attentive also has a bigger-than-average penis? Is bigger better in this situation? Depending on several circumstances, it might.
Consider this: in a penis enlargement study conducted by Dr. Brian Richards in 1975, thirty men enlisted to do penis exercises for three months. Prior to the study, the wives and girlfriends were interviewed about their thoughts on penis size. Richards indicated, “For the most part they expressed unconcern and lack of enthusiasm about penis size.”
However, when Richards and his team interviewed them after the study—after the men had enlarged their penises by an average of 1.5 inches in length and 1 inch in girth—a large percentage of the women changed their minds about penis size. “Later when the trials were over there was a dramatic increase in those who found penis size interesting and valuable and who declared they were pleased with the increase and the unexpected effects this produced in themselves,” said Richards. “At the time I had my doubts about penis size relevance. This, more than anything else, dispelled that misconception.”2
Time and time again, penis exercisers log into online forums to reveal their experiences with their new penis: the new moans their wives make in the bedroom, the new infatuation that their partner has with their penis, the better sex life that they now have. Is bigger better? Perhaps. But truthfully, this question can’t be answered by anyone but you. I suppose in time you’ll have your own answer. Eventually, you may be faced with an even bigger question: what’s too big?”
What’s More Important: Girth or Length?
According to Cosmopolitan magazine, “Penis length isn’t nearly as important as girth. The wider his package, the better able you are to feel him against your sensitive vagina walls.”
The results of a study conducted at the University of Texas-Pan American concur with Cosmo’s assessment. The study, which was published in BMC Woman’s Health, surveyed 50 women on whether width or length was more important. “A large majority, 45 of 50, said width was more important,” says Dr. Russell Eisenman, author of the study. Eisenman also notes, “No females said that they could not tell any difference.”
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ü In a survey of nearly 1000 men who exercised their penis for three or more months, the average gain was 1 inch in length and 0.5 inches in girth (circumference).
ü Healthy penile smooth muscle is as important for your penis as healthy cardiac muscle is for your heart.
ü The majority of men report that their erections are “stronger and harder” due to penis exercises.
ü Penis exercising doesn’t work overnight, and it may take you anywhere from months to years to reach your goal.
ü The gains you make from penis exercises are often permanent; particularly if you follow a cementing routine once you reach your goal.
ü The average penis size is roughly 6 inches in length and 5 inches in girth (circumference).
ü According to editor-in-chief of Men’s Health David Zinczenko, three-quarters of women say they are satisfied with their partner’s penis size.